Well that gets me to a story of something that happened to me in the 1970s before any of this was in my life but it was other people already knew it would be apparently I went but with my wife it was a very social person she had lots of friends in New York and we went to a lot of parties I was even invited to some of the parties but told don't be depressing or I'll throw you out you'll have to go on the in the case.